The Art of Maintaining Grace

I would like to first point out that this post took a lot of guts for me and it's been a long time in the works.  I am a private person in general, so the fact that I am attempting to tell my story in an unmasked and unfiltered way to a mostly unknown audience is a scary endeavor.  I realize that this is wholly my story and may or may not represent the experiences of others.  I've taken this leap and I trust in the notions that I am not alone and that others will choose compassion over judgment.

Over the years, it has been very difficult to express my journey.  Discussing the intricate and personal details while in the throws of physical discord is particularly defeating to my spirit. On the other hand, when I am having a wonderful day, I find it difficult and unappealing to shift conversation to to such a mirthless subject that usually renders feelings of defeat.  To that end, I feel like there is never a voice.  I am either muted by the pain or subdued because I don't want to let the speak of pain seep in and demolish a perfectly pleasant day.

I understand that this dynamic disallows others to permeate this barrier and really see me.  I am shaped by this beast that is sometimes greater than I.  

It is a blessing and a curse that EDS (for the type and symptoms that I express) is an invisible disease.  At times I count my blessing that at least I don't have something small children fear or that others may have made fun of during the formative years of middle school that were treacherous enough for all of us without an active reason to be teased.  Other times, I wish people could see the pain.  It can be very alienating to feel trapped inside a body that seems to both resent and torture me with no evidence to the outside world.  I have seen illustrations from other fellow EDS'ers that try to explain it visually. (I use the term EDS'ers out of endearment.  I love and respect others who share my path)

I'm not sure I understand the butterfly, but I definitely see where they were going with this post.  I do not have the photo credit for this one.

I received this one from a dear friend of mine who shares the same journey.  I also do not have the credit for this one.

The second photo speaks more to me.  While I do think it would help if the the world could just see why I'm particularly quiet one day or not appearing to be myself, I don't exactly want to wear a sign on my forehead either.  

Awareness is a better way of coping.  That is why I vow to be a bit more open about EDS in 2015.  I can't say I'm ready to start shouting it from the top of Camelback Mountain, but I should probably have more conversations about it with the people who love me.  I know they want to know me and that includes the beast within. 

There have been countless outings when I have sat quietly observing my friends having a nice dinner and making interesting conversation, while I try to fake my way through it as though nothing is wrong.  I do this because it is the best alternative.  Take a moment to really think about it.  If I go home, EDS wins and I sit alone at home with nothing to do but think of the night that would have been.  I choose to stay out and try, hard as it may be, to enjoy life.  I love my friends and my life no matter what.  Staying out and ignoring the EDS is the best form of distraction.  

Sometimes, I try harder to fake it for the people who don't know me well because I see it as most confusing for them.  It's easier to briefly tell a good friend that it's a rough one and let them entertain me with easy conversation.  They don't hold it against me when I stop mid sentence because the pain interrupted and I suddenly forgot what I was saying.  I wonder if other people who don't know I'm in pain think I have some sort of cognition issue or that I've had a few too many drinks.

I have given every easy to understand excuse in the book to try to avoid actually explaining this in detail...  

I have a terrible headache.  This is very real and probably one of my most common issues.  I get terrible muscle spams in my neck that go up the side of my head into my jaw and around my eyes.  Sometimes the pain is so bad I throw up.  I also find it difficult to articulate myself when this happens.  If every other word is interrupted mid-thought by a reminder pain, I'm sure you can imagine how non-sequitur my thoughts feel.  It's also difficult to talk when your jaw is clamping down and forcing conversation makes it radiate to my neck and eye. Thankfully this doesn't happen to me very often.  Sometimes I feel like I go through bouts where it seems like it's all the time, but in the grand scheme, it's something I can live with.

Last year on my birthday, my husband tried to lift my spirits and get me out of the house just for a short lunch with friends.  I knew they understood, so I went.  Midway through their lunch (I couldn't eat- intense pain will do that), I got up and politely excused myself so I could go throw up in the bathroom.  That's when the pain reached a level that it didn't matter if it was my birthday or my friends were there.  EDS won and we had to leave.  Hopefully next year will be a better birthday!!

I threw my back out .  Back spams are fairly common for me.  I use this one a lot for random things like dislocated ribs and hip pain.  It's just easier to say something like this to a lay person than to get into details.

I'm just tired; I worked a lot this week.  Fatigue is always an issue for EDS'ers.  Theres a careful balance between keeping active enough and over doing it.

When do these things happen? When I'm mentally stressed, when I have stressed my body by working out or other physical activities, when I travel, sleep in a bed that is not my own, sleep on a pillow that is not my own, and my favorite reason... for no reason at all.  

I always tell the host or hostess that I had a wonderful night's sleep in their home.  There's nothing they can do and I don't want to burden him or her.  I have spent whole weekends away from home on about 5 hours of sleep because I toss and turn, dislocate ribs on hard mattresses and my shoulders are so loose rolling over on them usually pops them out.

I always wonder what impression I have left on the people who don't know me well.  

Did they think there was something wrong with their hospitality?  

Did they find me offensively quiet?  

Did they think I was disinterested?  

Did they find me unintelligible? 

Did they find it offensive that I appeared to try harder or look more natural talking to others?  

Did they assume that I do not care for them?  

I also wonder if I would be judged if others knew the truth.  I have, more than once, been asked, "Do you think you should have children?" Yes I do.  I feel my life has bee fulfilling and enjoyable.  I've had my challenges, but I can't imagine that if my mother had known that I would have challenges, she would have considered making a different choice.  There are many, far worse, ailments that can happen upon a child with EDS or not.  I also do not have a lethal form of EDS, so I am not prevailing that upon an unwitting life.  For mothers and fathers of children with VEDS, your decisions are not for me or anyone else to judge. 

Would they feel sorry for me?  I hope not.  I think I do pretty well.  Maintaining grace in times of struggle is a skill and an art at which I am forever attempting to master.  

Would they understand?  I have no idea.  

Would they recognize when I'm having a bad day and if they did, would that be a good thing?  I don't often like to think of myself as EDS, I rather just think of it as something affects me sometimes and I hope that others don't see too much of it in me.  That's why it has begun to be more politically correct to refer to a person with a handicap as such rather than a "handicapped person" or a child affected by autism rather than "an autistic kid."  Given the context, I'm hope it evokes thought.  This is meant to be positive, so I hope that if there's something you think you may have done wrong, smile to yourself and know that we humans don't always get it right, so now you can be happy to know that you are prepared for the situation that you previously were not.

I originally wrote this to post on EDS message boards as a way for others to share it and talk about the parts that speak to them.  Maybe it can start conversations with loved ones that other EDS'ers haven't been able to have.  

As I wrote more and more and more, I started to think that I should have the courage to share this on my own social media pages and see what happens.

If I have sent this to you directly, it's because I experienced memorable bad days in your presence.  It took courage to send this, but it also shows that I believe in your heart and I believe I can share this with you.  I have wondered these things.  I have thought to myself that I hope I made a good impression.  I have not known how to approach the subject.  Again, it's not easy to talk about in the middle of it and it's not the easiest conversation starter.

The Evolution

Since my diagnosis, my thoughts, feelings, fears and over all experience with my disease has changed.

The first I heard of a possible explanation for my symptoms absolutely terrified me.  I thought it was impossible that there was something so "wrong" with me as a human being.  Having a genetic disease made me feel like there was something awry with the central hardwiring of myself; some major malfunction that separated me drastically from everyone else I knew.

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The Diagnosis

Being diagnosed by clinical presentation is not an easy, forgive the pun, pill to swallow.  To over simplify the experience for the sake of interest, the process goes something like this:

Doctor: Can you do this, this and this?  Do you have this problem?  That problem?
Patient: I guess so.  Sort of.  Yes.  Probably.  I'm not sure...
Doctor: Sounds like you probably have this disease.  Let's call it that.

I left the office and thought.  How ridiculous that there is no "test."  That was the test and the best he could offer.  I thought it was crazy to call that a "definitive" diagnosis.  I suppose that was why the diagnosis was qualified by "probably."  I was certain I could put this out of my mind without giving it another thought.  There's no way I was going to allow this experience to make me think there was something so major wrong with my body.  I was no different before I went to the doctor than when I left and I felt like I functioned pretty well before anyone spoke otherwise.

I realize that you must be wondering how I could be undecided as to whether or not I had an actual ailment.  I was in a grey area because I had always functioned "normally" within my world.  Hearing that other people do not have pain regularly was difficult to understand.  Other people had headaches and joint aches right? My joints had always been loose as long as I could remember, so it was normal to me.  I spent the better part of a year convinced that it was a bogus appointment and that I didn't need to listen to any geneticist who could offer no "proof" in the form of a blood or skin test.

About a year later, I saw a different geneticist for a second opinion.  This time, I shared with the doctor that I'd had my doubts.  He was less vague than the other doctor.  He offered a guarantee that he was certain of my diagnosis based on clinical symptoms.  I pleaded that I thought my pain was from pushing myself in sports.  He asked if any of my teammates struggled as I had.  The hadn't.  This time, I felt I had to listen.  He was right and the first doctor had been as well.  It helped his case that between appointments, I developed other pain issues and had two failed shoulder surgeries.  There was clearly something wrong with my joints.  

I believe denial can be a normal part of the process.  Nobody wants to hear that they have a problem.  I really read into and interpreted the meaning of this "problem" in ways that were not helpful.

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                             Working Toward Acceptance

I spent the next couple of years of my young adult life attempting to understand and connect with the disease.  If you can't beat them, join them.  Right?  I accepted having Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome as part of my identity.  

I probably took it on as a greater portion of my identity than what I needed.  It was definitely helpful to reach out to other affected people.  It helped to hear that I was not alone and to hear the things that helped them stay motivated and on track.  Those things also helped me to be motivated.  

I felt I needed to learn this disease inside and out.  I believe this drastically influenced me to change my career path to nursing.  Burying myself in knowledge made me feel like I was staying one step ahead of the disease.

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                                Finding a Place for EDS to Fit

Over time, I felt like I had done my part to get acquainted with this disease.  I attended conferences.  I made friends with EDS.  I sought supportive treatment and stabilized my symptoms somewhat (there is nothing curative out there, only support for the symptoms).  I felt like I knew what to do when the pain set on and while it still wasn't easy, it became something I was used to.

I slowly began to feel that less of my identity was tied to EDS.  It felt good to let go a little and be more of myself again.  I don't worry about what is going to become of my future because I will have challenges.  I don't feel helpless to unrelenting pain (at least not as often as I used to).  While it does affect me daily, I am so used to it, that I do not recognize it the same way.

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I put this out there because I found it so helpful to hear from other people that they too have climbed the mountain before.  At my worst pain experiences, I told myself that my friend advised me she was twice my age and had been where I was twice before, so she always knew that if some other body part started to fail her, she would be able to climb the mountain again just as she had before.  This advice was so valuable to me.  I felt like there was hope that if I just kept going every day, I would make it to the top.  I did.  I have done it again since then as well.  

Maybe other zebras out there are finding themselves confused by the diagnosis or feeling as though the disease has taken over their identity.

Why Zebras?

Most young doctors are taught early to think horses when they hear hoofbeats-- not zebras.  This is important because they do learn lots of thing in medical school that are far less common than the things they see daily.

Those of us who have EDS would like to remind them that zebras do exist. 

I think I live pretty gracefully as a zebra in a world full of horses. It can be difficult to keep up with everything between work, school, wedding planning, family, friends and, of course, EDS, but I think I do pretty well. The EDS can get in the way of a lot of things, but I really try not to let it affect me and when I have no choice in that, I try not to let it keep me down. 

Bruises

Who likes when blood vessels spontaneously burst while you are doing nothing??

It Gets Better!

When I was newly diagnosed with EDS, I joined a local support group.  One of the most helpful things I heard came from a woman who had been dealing with EDS for many years.  She shared with me that she had been going through a rough time with it lately and that she wasn't down about it because she had been there before and climbed that hill before.

At the time, I was feeling like my symptoms were at their worst and my life had changed drastically from what it was.  I was afraid this change might be permanent.  She gave me hope that it could turn around.

Lately, over the last couple of months, I think I have had more bad days than normal.  I can stay positive because just as my life found a more normal place than it was at the time I mentioned before, it will again.

I may have to find new ways to exercise or practice patience with myself, but it always turns around.

I wanted to share that with you because over the last ten years, I have gone back to that conversation many times to remind myself that things will be ok.  Maybe there's someone else out there who is feeling uncertain about EDS right now and needs some assurance.  It will get better!!!

The Pain Chronicles: Take 1

One of the goals of my blog is to create an outlet for me to share what I experience with EDS with the people who care about me.  

I've mentioned before that Melanie Thernstrom's 2010 book, The Pain Chronicles was a wonderfully uplifting and informative book.  I thought it would be interesting to share some of the parts of it that spoke to me and what it meant to me.

Here are a few quotes from the beginning of the book. 

(page 5)
To be in physical pain is to find yourself in a different real--a state of being unlike any other, a magic mountain as far removed from the unfamiliar world as a dreamscape.  Usually, pain subsides; one walks from it as from a nightmare, trying to forget it as quickly as possible.  But what of pain that persists?  The longer it endures, the more excruciating the exile becomes.  Will you ever go home? you begin to wonder, home to your normal body, thoughts, life?  

I know this feeling all too well.  Sometimes I feel like the pain has consumed my life.  It can make me feel like I would rather be alone than to have to somehow explain the pain to someone else or experience it in their presence.  When I feel like it's been a while since I've felt like myself, I start to wonder when my life will possibly become familiar again.  I do maintain though, that no matter whether the good days out weigh the bad or the other way around, that the not-so-painful days are my familiar days.  I hope I never get to the point that the painful days are what feel normal.
                                                                         
This may seem dreary, but it's comforting to know that these feelings are a normal part of this process.

(page 6)
In one survey, most chronic pain patients said that their pain was "a normal part of their medical condition and something with which they must live."  One-third of the patients said that their pain's severity was "sometimes so bad [they] want to die."  Almost one-half said they would spend all they have on treatment if they could be assured it would banish their pain.

Again, it's nice to see numbers like one-third and one-half.  Feels less lonely or like "exile."  It's been a tough pill to swallow that, in my twenties, I cut down my hours at work and started letting someone else clean my house.  This is my equivalent of throwing all my money at treatment-since less physical work means better quality life.  

There was a lot of self-worth wrapped up in doing things for myself.  That's something I have come to realize that I just need to do in order to feel better.  What good is working all the time if I feel like half of a person when I'm struggling through the work-day and less of a person than that when I finally make it home in the evening.  It is getting easier to accept this feat.  It certainly helps that there is a notable difference in the way I feel. 

I look forward to more posts from this book.  I think she did a great job of blending enough personal information, like the above quotes, with scientific information- which will be coming soon.

Avoiding Medication Errors At Your Local Retail Pharmacy

I want to share a story with you in the hopes that the same thing does not happen to you. 


I used to take a medicine that is a mild pain reliever and it worked so well for me.  With EDS, pain is a constant battle and anything that works is a blessing.  


About a year and a half ago, I began having miserable side effects to my medicine.  I had been taking it for 2 years prior to that without any complaint  even of expected and common adverse effects associated with it.  One day I took my usual 2 or 3 pills (well within the normal dosing limits) and my sinuses closed and I became extremely drowsy.  It was on the same day as a dear friend's wedding and happened to be when my boyfriend had family staying with us for the wedding.  I was so miserable that day.  I recall driving and thinking that something had gone awfully wrong because I could not keep my eyelids open.  I feared the fatigue associated with EDS and my demanding work schedule, combined with stress had gotten the best of me.  I took my medicine again the next day and the same thing happened.  I didn't yet associate anything with the medication, thinking only that I had overextended myself.  It may sound odd that I made no connection at that point, but I did take it because I was having pain and I thought perhaps my own pain and fatigue were just worsening.  I can remember thinking how awfully I felt and looked and that I hated that other people saw me in that situation.


I did, after a few doses, make the connection to the medication.  Since it is possible that the medication can cause dizziness and drowsiness, I decided it must just be from the med even though I had not had these symptoms before.


Recently, a year after discontinuing the medication, I cleaned out the medicine cabinet as part of my pre-move house cleaning.  I came across my medicine and thought, 'Why do I still have this?  There's no way I can take this anymore.'  Since it used to work so well, prior to any of this, I decided to look up the med by the markings to see if there had been any issues reported with that particular med and manufacturer.


The medication turned out to be a completely different med- TRAZODONE.  -Which is definitely not what was prescribed to me.  Trazodone is an anti-depressant that is sometimes used as a sleep aide.  One can imagine the consequences that could have occurred from taking a few of them and getting behind the wheel of a car.  


How does this kind of mistake happen?


Well, pharmacies do make mistakes.  They do have a rate of error that is to be expected.  With baby-boomers getting older and taking more medications, the retail pharmacy industry is growing.  If there is an expected and unavoidable rate of medication errors that will occur, errors will happen to same part of the population.  The key is to catch the errors before any adverse events happen.


How do we as consumers avoid medication errors happening to us?

• If your prescription is new for you, open the bottle at the pharmacy and have the pharmacist check it before you leave.  If you have had it filled before, check it against the old bottle for the dose and instructions and check the pills against each other to make sure they have the same markings and appearance.  Some pharmacies will put a written notification on the bottle or the materials given to you to notify you when the markings or appearance have changed, but not all of them do.
• If you can wait, fill your prescription after the first week of the month.  Why?  Social security checks go out on the first of the month.  Many people have to wait for these checks to come in to fill their prescriptions.  With the surge of business, errors increase during this time.
• Don't be in a rush at the pharmacy.  Checking the pills will ensure against human error and errors that may occur outside of the pharmacy like the Opana pills that were found in bottles of Excedrin.

In my case, the name and appearance of the pills were similar.  The only way to tell was, of course, the crazy side effects and the markings.

I have since been able to get back on the right medication and gain some pain relief.  Things are getting back on track, but I did suffer unnecessary setback for the year that I went off of it.  

It is essential to understand that the medical field itself and the people who carry out services to us are fallible.  Often times we would like to place blame when the focus ought to be on how to avoid and anticipate mistakes that most certainly will occur.  

Awareness Month

It's May 31st and another awareness month has come to an end.


I know my blog has been MIA for a while, but I hope that with the start of my blog, my friends and family have learned something new about EDS.


Mostly this is just a cathartic way of sharing my story and organizing my thoughts on EDS, but I am always here to answer questions/ interests about EDS.


Hopefully when things settle down after moving and switching jobs I will have more to share.  For now, the conversion of paper charting to EMR at my current job has me pretty swamped and exhausted from head to toe.

PT continued...

Still working on PT.  Yesterday I had the PT assistant working with me.  I have a cold or something and I really didn't feel like explaining EDS to her.  I also think that's the PT's job.  I scared her when I was doing an exercise with my back against the wall.  I didn't like the way my shoulder was articulating, so I pressed my shoulder blade against the wall until I felt my scapula snap, pretty hard, back into place.  She said, "Did you just pop your shoulder back in place?"  She seemed really startled and said she had never seen that before.  Oops. Maybe I should have warned her.  I forget that other people can be squeamish about that stuff.

Crushed Another Run

Well, crushed my second attempt at a run this year.  It's a good start.  I actually found my second wind this time.  You know, that moment in your run that you stop feeling like it's too hard and you think you could keep going for a while.  I still stopped at 1.55 miles though.  My asthma was kicking me in the chest the whole time.  I can't wait for it to get hot outside, so that isn't such an issue.  Fingers crossed for no dislocated ribs this time.  


I used to get at least 3-4 good distance runs in every week.  Once I quit doing it consistently (during recovery from shoulder surgeries), I started with the dislocated ribs after runs.  Hopefully if I can learn to be patient with myself and stick to the slow runs, I can build up to a good 5 mile run.  What a release those long runs used to be.  I'd love to have that end-of-the-run feeling again.

Back to the Grind

Still haven't been back to PT since vacation.  Finally taking a few days off work to get back in the game.  Lately I have been researching dysautonomia.  It's been rough the few warm days we've had so far.  Not sure how I'm going to make it this Summer.  It seems like the cause is up for speculation as well as the method of treatment.  This is rather discouraging to me.  I'd rather put it off than start a new med based on speculation.  Looks like I'm going to have to be a little more open minded if I want to be more comfortable this Summer.

How does EDS feel to me?

This is difficult for me to write.  I don't see myself regularly as a line-up of symptoms.  It's never as bad as the list might seem since I don't experience the whole list at once.  In general, I think I do pretty well.  Most of the time, I make it through my work day without any serious issue.  Some days, I get in a good workout.  Many of these things don't even bother me much because I don't remember life without this.




EDS is...


Reaching to grab something and my fingers bend backwards, refusing to hold it.


Suddenly dropping something that I thought I had a good hold on.  Note that many of my dishes are cracked.  -Just yesterday, I was washing out my pyrex dish at work and, in front of all of everyone in the break room, I dropped it (forcefully) and full of water.  Dirty water went everywhere!  Doing dishes is the worst!  That happens every time.


Neck pain that encompasses my entire head, jaw, eyes and shoulders.  I have no words to describe the pain that makes me throw up repeatedly for hours.  It's the worst thing I have ever experienced.


Muscle spasms that feel like rocks to the touch and twitch like a TENS unit.  I have a few that never release, no matter how much muscle relaxant I take.


Shoulders that dislocate several times a day.  It's always surprising when I sneeze and basically jerk them out of the socket while trying to cover my mouth.  As if a sneeze wasn't surprise enough.


Collar bones that snap into place first thing in the morning when I roll over to turn off my alarm.


Ankles that seem to separate when my feet leave the ground while I jog or run.  This sends a searing pain through them.  I still ponder running a marathon one day.  Maybe... Probably not :) that's crazy.


My low back and hips are so loose, I'm not even sure how to comment on them.  It's been an ongoing task to keep it at bey for the last 11 years, so I don't think I could do it justice in a few words.


Elbows that need to be yanked back into place when they get stuck in a bad position.


Dizziness.


Fatigue.


So, in case you didn't know much about EDS or how it affects me, this is some of what it is to me.

What have I learned from EDS?

I have learned...


... to give people a chance.  For instance, when someone is crabby, short tempered, quiet, or anything else that could be off-putting, I find myself thinking that I shouldn't really judge.  I don't know what brought them to that point today.  Overall, I am much more gentle with people than I used to be.


... to live today.  If it is a bad day, I will make it through and hope for a better day tomorrow.  If it is a good day, cherish it.


... that certain things one might not have thought are a privilege.  Being able to work, working out, going out and being among friends.  These are all things for which to be thankful.


I'm still working on trying to do what I can and not push myself for reasons that are not as important as I think.


These are the major lessons for now, but I'm sure if I gave it some time, there are plenty more to add.

What is EDS to me?

Feeling like others think you are a flake because suddenly 'you have to go' or 'you aren't yourself today' and 'you just aren't up to going out tonight.'


Wishing everyone could see and understand what was going on with me, while at the same time wishing nobody could see.


Working hard to make sure I am supporting myself, but not sacrificing my body by overextending myself.


Being sad or angry every time I have to cut my hours at work or change my schedule because I simply can't manage it anymore.


Giving up on one thing at a time and telling myself that it is not a big deal- just one more little thing I can't do.


Working to accept that my body has limits.

A Simple Thought...

It's tough to be a zebra in a pack of horses.  Especially when I feel I am the only one who sees my stripes.

Travel

Arrived home a few days ago from a Caribbean cruise.  The cruise was amazing!  4 excursions over one week.  Glad to be back though.


Does anyone else feel like travel is incredibly overwhelming?


I had my own pillow, but the bed was less than adequate.  I feel like a hard bed just pushes against every joint in my body and causes everything to dislocate/sublux.  It's a nice surprise to wake up and at every movement feel something pop.  I describe my shoulders and clavicles popping back in like, "being punched in the shoulder from the inside."  I always worry beforehand about those kind of accommodations.  All-in-all, I think it went well.  By the 3rd excursion day, we nixed the kayaking and snorkeling for a day of lounging at the beach and I got a massage by one of the locals.  We did the same thing the 4th day, although I probably should have resisted flinging myself onto and inflatable and racing to the top.


Today, I'm topping off my vacation with a raging sinus infection and I can't tell if the dizziness is from the sinuses, my neck, the baseline dizziness that I've always had worsening or the ship.  Let's call it the ship for now and not worry!


Lots of rest before back to work this week and then, next week, back to my usual PT and workouts.

The Pain Chronicles by Melanie Thernstrom

Has anyone else read the book The Pain Chronicles by Melanie Thernstrom?  I found it to be informative, objective and uplifting.  I would recommend it to any EDSer out there!


The Pain Chronicles

ZUMBA!!!

Long story short, the trip back home was a mess.  Long car ride by myself really made for a lot of knots in my neck and shoulders.  Back home now.  Rest, cleaning, PT -mostly massage and TENS and I'm back in the game.  Today I was brave enough to try some Zumba videos on YouTube.  I can't do all of the moves like they do- no throwing my arms up like I just don't care, but it was fun.  I'll look as silly as I want to in my living room.


Here are the videos I did:

Aprons for Zebras

I really like to sew and my mom recently asked for an apron that doesn't tie at the waist.  Neck pain- blah.  So, I crossed the straps at the back and tied them at the waist.  Here is the result.

I would love to sew and sell more things to make life easier. Please let me know if you would be interested in an apron or if you have any other ideas for stuff you need an altered version of.

Massage and EDS

I need a massage!  I heard an ad on the radio for a school of massage having cheap cheap massages.  I know everyone has to start somewhere and I needed ppl to practice on while I was in nursing school, so could it hurt?  If I just did a swedish massage and no deep tissue, would it matter?